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My Superpower = Nothing To Actually Do With ME
#9 in my 20 Things Every Woman Should Ask Herself series…. and here is the roughest question yet. #9 What is my superpower? It’s like an evaluation at work or at school. You rate yourself from 1-5 and...
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Don’t Borrow Trouble (& what the ice taught me)
I’m half way through my 20 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself series! (I promise, if you stick with me until the end of this blog, it will be worth it.) And #10 has made me think a lot. When was...
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The Reason I’m Here
We all hope to find those friends we can call in a crisis, vent to at our worst, and raise our glasses with at our best. This hope (back in middle school when I wondered where all the nice girls were)...
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Dirt, Laughter, Love, Music, and Chickens (aka how to make a house a home)
As I look at this next question in my 20 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself series….. 12. What is beautiful to me and do I have some of that in my life right now? I am grinning ear to ear because...
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Said No Little Girl Ever
Hey Lou Writes will always be my first love, as far as blogging goes. However, I’ve expanded my world a bit, and am now writing regularly for my new blog, Said No Little Girl Ever… all about being a...
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Know Your Heart, Know Your Truth
Number 13 in my 20 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself series can be answered in a short and sweet manner. Do I know the sound of my own true voice? The answer is yes, but it took a while to get...
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I’ll Stay
Get ready for some thoughts on marriage. I’m no expert, but given that this is my second marriage and I’m well into year two of the rest of my life, I do have a perspective all of my own. I’ve been...
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“Hi, I’m Melinda and I’m {insert current struggle here}.”
Hi, I’m Melinda and I’m currently struggling with the fact that I am not getting pregnant. But let me explain…and take a few steps back… One of the things that healed me the most after my divorce (5...
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Happy Birthday, Good Timber
It’s my husband’s 41st birthday today. When I think of him, my eyes well up with tears – the kind that say I love you, I love who you are, I love who you help me to be, and I am so thankful for you in...
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There’s Gonna Be a Darkness (and a thousand little funerals)
I’ve attended a thousand little funerals. It’s called infertility. This month, I actually stood on the edge of the cemetery in town with my husband and cried tears that were the culmination of 29 years...
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When I Cannot See
I’ve been blind to many things in life. I’ve been blind to true intentions when my own preconceived notions get in the way. I’ve been blind to love when it was holding me. I’ve been blind to God’s...
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5 Reasons I’ll Make a Fantastic Blind Woman (laughter in the ruck)
This week I’ve been on the upswing of finding out some hard news: impending blindness on the horizon. dilated eyes at latest appointment Though Retinitis Pigmentosa might be the diagnosis, I do know...
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You Throw, I’ll Roll (why losing my vision isn’t all about loss)
I’ve had some ups and down since January, when I learned I had the inherited eye condition Retinitis Pigmentosa. You can read all about that experience here. I have to admit that in my worst moments,...
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The Most Realistic Expectations
Here are some Realistic Expectations: Grow up and get married. Get a job you don’t totally hate. Go to the beach a few times in your life. Someday buy a car that isn’t a total lemon. Have kids. Watch...
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This is What Grief Looks Like (I’m Exhausted)
For the fourth year in a row, I won’t be able to announce a pregnancy during the holidays. That was my stupid pipe dream, my light at the end of the tunnel, my thing to hold on to. My dream that I was...
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I Ran (…and I Ran… and I Ran…)
Running, like the theme of some really cheesy country songs, is my strongest M.O. I can run away from something, no problem, forget it happened, move on, pack up a few belongings, and GO. But this...
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by Melinda Haas After You Stop When you make the choice to stop trying, another part of you dies. When you make the choice to stop trying, something deep within you sighs relief. When your womb is...
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Silence
I haven’t had a lot to say, hence the overall silence this past year on Hey Lou. This blog started more than a decade ago as something I loved — I loved sharing the new insight I had on the world. I...
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My womb is an empty harvestPromising plenty and starving meBoth at once I saw it as lifeBlood and energy and painUntil I saw it as a wastelandLifelessBut there was still bloodAnd still painAlways pain...
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Seven Year Satisfaction (No Itchin!)
Here’s the deal: seven is a great number. It’s lucky, it’s nice and odd (I love an odd number!), it’s biblical for crying out loud. It’s also a great way to mark time. We’ve all heard of the Seven...
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